First of all, what is feminism? According to Hilde Lindermann, an American philosophy professor at the University of Michigan it is an ideology that believes men and women are equal and that gender isn’t a barrier for success, education and basically everything else in life and feminist is someone who understands this and preaches it. Sounds pretty explicit right, but some people tend to misunderstand they whole concept and get confused by it and come up with their own perception of feminism. Here are are some of the things which are absolutely irrelevant to feminism.
So, you are not a feminist if you have this pictures in your head:
1) If you want power rather than respect
Feminism is not about seeking for superiority over men instead it’s about seeking for mutual respect and understanding from men. It is not a competition for dominance and superiority power instead it is about striving for EQUALITY and only EQUALITY. The main objective of feminism is to get equal rights with men by fighting for our freedom not fighting against them or stealing their freedom away. It about making the playing ground mutual for everyone.
2) If you think feminists are anti-man
You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro women- Jane Galwin Lewis
Let’s get one thing straight, just because I fight for women does not mean I hate men. Feminist don’t think that all men are evil, rapists, sexist and so on. Instead feminist is someone who believes people should have equitable places in society regardless of their gender. Women who hate men are known as misandrist and not feminist. In fact, feminism has no room for hate.
3) If you think gender equality is only a women thing
Most people do not get that feminism fight for the equality of both gender and not just for women. It is about ensuring that every individual has an equal opportunity to make the most of their lives and regardless of their race, disability, gender, and sexuality.
4) If you too blame the girl
Have you ever notice, no matter what happen at the end of the day the girl is always the one that gets the blame. Brad Pitt and Angelina broke up and Jenifer Aniston was blamed for it. It may sound funny but it is also naive, like why is the girl blamed for everything? When a girl gets catcalled, abused, raped or harassed some people be like “I mean it is her fault and she deserves it”. Seriously, how is it her fault and why can’t it at least for once be his fault?
Here is a heart touching documentary by BBC about a rape case in India and how rapists justify themselves by blaming the girl and this happens all the time where the criminals throw the blame at the victim for his actions. How is this justifiable? Her clothes is not a sign and hope that people will realize this and stop blaming women for the maliciousness of some and severe actions are taken against those who commit the crime against women.
5) If you think it’s OK to discriminate women just because she is a woman
“I raise up my voice—not so I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard…we cannot succeed when half of us are held back.” ―Malala Yousafzai
For some reason, people think it’s okay to make fun of women for the way she looks or dress or talk or basically for anything. If a girl does dress up, put on makeup or looks slim and slender people label her as a ‘hot chick’, fake and so on whereas if she doesn’t dress up, doesn’t use makeup or looks chubby people go like she’s fat, ugly and so on. So, how should a girl be when everything she is trying to be is being criticized? Not just men, sometimes even women discriminate women which are not OK simply because you cannot expect respect from another kind when you got no mutual respect for your own kind.
Also, so what if she looks fat in the dress, or she got her nose done, or if her hair is coming out of her hijab does it really matter? If you think it does, then you are definitely not a feminist.
So, these are some of the few things most people tend to get wrong about feminism and have a false assumption about what feminist really is. Hope, this gives you a better idea of feminism and realize that feminists are not a bunch of bitches who hate men instead we are just bunch of women who want our voice to be heard.
“Feminism isn’t about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.” —G.D. Anderson