Why we feel so lonely

Image by Domen Mirtic from Pexzel
image by Domen Mirtic from Pexzel

I’ve always wondered why we sometimes feel lonely, like there’s a glass interface between us and the real world. it’s looks so real that we begin to wonder if there ever will be an end to that lonely tunnel. I even began to wonder if they were dopamine and serotonin hormone inducing injections to help induce happy feelings during sad experiences. We frown at closeness because we assume people wouldn’t be able to comprehend our perplexing behavior.

We begin to question our abilities and see more of what’s outside rather than what’s inside us. I believe most of us can attribute to these feelings that can gradually induce a state of depression every day feels meaningless, like no matter what you do it will never be enough. The release of serotonin (Natures feel-good hormone) drops and cortisol (stress hormone) rises. Soon enough anxiety begins to cloud or thoughts.

The puzzling question, WHY DO WE FEEL LONELY? Could it be the loss of a closed one, our genetic make-up, or perhaps our comfortability with self-pity and worthlessness?

In my opinion, I strongly believe it has to do with the orientation and state of one’s mind. Life can sometimes feel empty in a hopeless way. You start to wonder if you will ever find happiness, the fear of walking that journey alone becomes painful. You can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely…Many people are lonely even though they have acquaintances and activities. This strongly backs up the fact that it has more to do with our internal factors than the outside world.

 With all these reasons stated above, SO HOW EXACTLY DO WE DEAL WITH LONELINESS?

You must know that it doesn’t happen spontaneously. It’s a gradual process of self-growth that takes patience and perseverance to scale through.

I believe that spending quality with oneself is as important as creating family bonding with loved ones. This helps us to get accustomed and comfortable with our true nature. You need to see life from a different angle. Write down reasons for you being happy and I can guarantee that it will surpass your reason for being lonely. There’s more to life than your clouded life misconceptions. Give yourself a chance to self-heal.

3 Comments

  1. Awesome write up. Loneliness if not easily curbed can lead to depression which is why we must be careful of our thoughts

  2. There are many reasons why people feel lonely. The inside factor is perhaps the major cause of loneliness. But then, the outside and how we react to externalities contribute to what dominates our inside. I believe tackling loneliness starts by reacting positively to most of life situations, then surrounding ourselves with those things that excite us will go a long way too.

  3. Happiness comes from within, we are responsible for our happiness but at some point we all feel lonely it’s Such a terrible feeling

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