Sex and Parenting

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The parents typically have several concerns when it comes to sex education. How do I get started? What am I going to say? What do I tell? Answering the questions about sex from their children is a burden that many parents fear.

Most moms and dads often feel tongue-tied and uncomfortable when thinking about puberty and where babies come from. But they shouldn’t avoid the topic. Parents may help promote healthy sexual feelings if they respond to children’s questions in an age-appropriate manner.

So why do you have to discuss all this stuff with your kids? First of all, your kids will learn about sex; from their peers, Internet surfing, and watching TV. You make sure they get the right details by going in first, and most importantly, they know how you feel about it.

From as early as infancy, kids are interested in learning about their bodies. They are naturally curious. It should be more of a cycle that unfolds, one in which children learn what they need to know over time. When they arise, questions should be answered in order to fulfil the inherent interest of children when they grow.

Choosing the correct age to answer questions like “Where do I come from? and ‘What is sex? ‘It’s more about how relaxed the family is thinking about these subjects than about the ideal moment.

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Talking about these things shows kids can speak to trusted adults. Families are setting the groundwork for kids to feel good about their bodies and body functions and to feel encouraged to ask questions and seek assistance. When the issue is not taken up by families and schools, children may turn to other information sources that may not be trustworthy, such as peers, the internet or the newspapers.

Additionally, addressing sex is part of beginning open communication with your kids. Early, frank and open communication between parents and children is of great importance, particularly when your child becomes a teenager. When open contact is common, children are more likely to speak to parents about all other adolescent trials, such as anxiety, depression, relationships, and drug and alcohol as well as sexual issues.

Puberty brings about drastic physical and emotional changes which could scare an inexperienced child. This can be encouraging for children to know when members of their family start to perceive changes within themselves. Discuss how you think and how you handled uncomfortable conditions such as cycles or wet dreams.

Families are not expected to rely on the school system to teach sex education. Sex education can not even be available depending upon where you live. If sex education is taught to your child in kindergarten, consult with your mom. Tell them what they have learned. What a kid learns from peers and social media on the schoolyard is going to be imperfect and might be incorrect. This can be damaging or even harmful too.

 

 

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