We live in a generation in which the media has painted a picture of what we should be, what we should look like and what standards of beauty are deemed acceptable. This is why a lot of people are living in the fear of being their authentic selves.
We have just one life to live, we might as well use this life-loving every inch of ourselves or do you want to spend your lifetime hating yourself? don’t be that person, love!
Self-love is important because it sets a standard in which people treat you and how you have accepted to be treated, as the popular saying goes you teach people how to treat you.
Self-love also weeds off fake people from your life who can not keep up with the standards which you have set for yourself.
How do you expect people to love you if you don’t love yourself? Loving yourself is showing others you place value on yourself and you know your worth.
However, some people find self-love to be vain. I remember a friend of mine saw my lock screen on my iPhone and said I was vain because I used my photo as my lock screen, I replied her saying ” for a phone I purchased myself? Nah!” and I asked “whose picture should be there?” and she said, “it’s just too much”. A lot of people see that as too much and it’s okay, let them.
In this journey of self love its important to make use of love languages on yourself, yes! I said it!
In case you’re wondering what the love languages are, they are:
- Words of affirmation
- Act of service
- Physical Touch
- Quality time
Have you ever wondered why it’s so important to us when our loved ones make us feel special or show us how much they really feel about us?
Its because their words of affirmation, act of service, physical touch, gifts, quality time makes us feel like we matter and are still loved.
Imagine if they stopped doing this? how would you feel? you would feel emotionally starved, ignored or abandoned, isn’t it? This is how our inner selves feel too.
That is why as much as we desire love from others, we ourselves must have that love within in abundance. Use your love language on yourself, it would help you and redirect you on how you love to be treated and would improve your self-esteem.
Spoil yourself with gifts, remind yourself how great you are, spend time with yourself to catch up with your inner self and reflect, it helps a lot.
In the world we live today, it’s of importance because a lot of people are in the business of making people feel less than what they are.
The practice of self-love ensures you are not moved by this and this is why? because you know who you are, you know you are loved, you matter, you know how you want to be treated and what you deserve.
Self-love is also giving yourself room to make mistakes, giving yourself room to be human and not beating yourself up all the time you slip. I know sometimes we make plans but life happens, don’t be too hard on yourself, be kind to yourself. Use words of affirmation to remind yourself of how much of a badass you are and trust the process.
Self-love is not practiced enough in our society today, but it’s the first step to truly being self-sufficient, and appreciated.
When you love yourself, you exude a light that draws others in and sets the parameters on how you should be treated.
Below is a video on Wacklet giving more details on how self-love is achievable in our generation today.