Dear Bachelorettes: Beware of the 21st century side chick

8091036990_78a99d810b_oThe early mistresses before they were referred to as side chicks. Photo credit: Mcad Library. (Source)


Love is amazing. We all want to share a special bond with someone who loves us for who we are and not anything else. Sometimes we do find that special someone but in this present age and time, the side chicks have upped their game.

A Side Chick is a sexy distraction from a man’s problems.

The 21st century side chicks are more quiet, slow in action and aware of the guy’s Main girlfriend in most cases. She gives the man space and makes him the first to reach out to her. She always has his attention especially when he’s away from his main. She keeps text messages and phone calls interesting and fun. She blends perfectly into the female best friend role and everything feels natural to the guy.

The 21st century side chick establishes her role from the very beginning and so she avoids ‘The Talk’. If the relationship is all about hooking up, then no need to overwhelm the guy with serious conversations. This just pushes the guy away. The 21st century side chick loves all the attention she can get.

Alert!! Your man is not the only guy she’s hooking up with, she has other guys. She’s not there to develop feelings for you although some relationships result into happy endings. However for the 21st century side chick, these happy endings rarely happen.

The 21st century side chicks are never seen in public but are ever present online. She responds quickly to emails, Facebook messages and so on. She has sexy pictures with the interest of igniting the passion between them. The 21st century side chicks are available on weekdays not weekends and are smoking hot in appearance.

The 21st century side chicks are not obsessed with destroying your relationship. However if you mess with them, their venom is deadly. Once the course of the fling or attraction is over, they are never heard of again and they never return.

Relationships are tough especially when you date someone whose qualities are just outstanding. People are ready to swoop in when things get tough and men are looking for a place of solitude to air off some steam. Side chicks are avenues for women or men who do not develop feelings and get hurt as well.

One big tip is don’t be a side chick; it’s a waste of time and the word side chick is not a better way to describe cheating. Be patient for love, love will definitely come. Don’t get attached. For 98% of you, this will happen. At the end, you will be heartbroken. Remember, you are not his girlfriend, that role is taken. And you can get dumped very easily if you act up.

At the end of the day, ask yourself, ‘What benefit do I get from this?’ You can either be the one who wants him and is trying to take him from his girl, the one who is benefiting some other way; for example financially or the one who is fine with it because she has nothing else going on anyway.


  1. First, a side chick never involves emotions in her business. So when you say she might get dumped or is never chosen as the main in the long run by the guy, a side chick never really cared. She doesn’t even want a relationship with you in the first instance. She’s in to have fun, gain exposure and understand why men do what they do. A side chick never feels dumped. In some instances, the side chick is the one who dumps the guy especially when she decides to move on and get into a steady relationship. They even get the best husbands some times because the man knows it’s never a boring moment with her. A side chick knows her priorities, she’s focused and know what she aims to get from the relationship. She’s better with you being in a serious relationship and her just being on the side, she doesn’t really care. So if you think she’s not benefitting anything, my dear, she is. She stays loyal and faithful when true love comes.

  2. Nice article but I feel 21st century sidechicks still want it all bcos ladies just find it hard to share Lol

  3. I have been a side chick to a guy without knowing. The day I found out, I was so furious! Men are never satisfied with what they have. I had the option of ruining his relationship with the main chick or just letting it go. I eventually let it go and let God judge him! These days, not all side chicks are aware that they are one.

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